When Comparison Causes Me to Doubt My Worth

I shouldn’t have come, I thought. I scanned the crowded room, searching for a familiar face. I took an awkward side-step out of the way as a group of giggling girlfriends came toward me. A quick glance at the door told me I might be able to exit without anyone noticing. Before making my getaway, the host intercepted and led me to an empty table.

Enthusiasm filled the air, but to me it felt as distant as the ladies laughing and joking with each other. In the midst of all the hugs, selfies, and squeals of new friendships forming, I couldn’t help but feel something missing. Like they all had something I didn’t - companionship, belonging. And with every pang of longing felt, the voice of comparison grew louder and louder. Before I realized it, my compulsion to compare caused me to question my worth.

A woman in Scripture named Leah knew a thing or two about comparison. From the first moment we meet her, we get a glimpse of her countenance through the look in her eyes.

“There was no sparkle in Leah’s eyes, but Rachel had a beautiful figure and a lovely face,” (Genesis 29:17 NLT).

Leah led a sparkle-free life. Her special qualities concealed inside. She was just an ordinary girl who didn’t see anything super special about herself.

From where she stood, her sister Rachel seemed to have it all - beauty, her father’s affection, her husband Jacob’s love. When the two sisters were together, heads always turned toward Rachel. Leah had grown used to that, so it didn’t surprise her when Jacob favored her younger sister. And focusing on Rachel only magnified her emptiness.

When we compare, we turn our focus away from God. We let negative self-talk determine our worth. By seeing all she was missing, Leah allowed comparison to steal her shine. But God saw something more. He saw her as the woman He created - real, wonderful, magnificent.

“How magnificent are Your works, Lord, how profound your thoughts,” (Psalm 92:5 HCSB).

Leah may have gotten caught up in competition with Rachel, but when she turned her eyes toward God, she discovered her true worth. From Leah’s story, we can learn an important truth.

When we look at ourselves and see mediocre, God looks at us and sees magnificent. (Tweet this.)


Leah’s story brings hope today. It shows us we’re not alone in the battle with comparison. If we will let Him, God will fill the missing pieces in our hearts in the most beautiful ways, just like he did for me that night. God used a new friend at a simple gathering of women to reach out to this lonely girl. Just as I’d resolved to go hide in the bathroom, a brave young lady joined me at the table. We chatted, we connected, and best of all we found comfort in encouraging one another instead of comparing.

Just like Leah, we too can focus our gaze on God and discover our worth in our Heavenly Father. So let’s silence the voice of comparison today and see ourselves as God sees us. We are valuable. We are loved. We are His magnificent creation.

“How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered!” (Psalm 139:17 NLT).






5 Verses for When You Wake Up Feeling the Weight of Life’s Struggles

I love a good walk for exercise, but I’m not much for working out at a gym. It’s not so much the actual workout, but the days after that give me grief. When I’m in the moment, I feel so accomplished: fat-burning, blood-pumping, adrenaline-rushing. Oh yes, in the midst of the hard workout, I’m ready to conquer the world.

Waking up the next morning is a different story altogether.

Before I even move, I sense the effects of the previous day. Sore muscles make it hard to walk, sit down, or raise my arms above my head. Who am I kidding? It even hurts to breathe, much less put my feet on the floor to lift myself out of bed.

Fighting life’s battles can be like that.

When you wake up in the morning, your first thought is of the struggle. Instantly you feel this unbearable weight pressing down on your chest. Your heart physically aches, your head pounds, soreness and exhaustion take over. It even hurts to breathe, much less put your feet on the floor to lift yourself out of bed.

I’ve been there too, friend. In fact, I’ve felt those familiar effects of battle recently. It’s like the wounds are trying to heal, but with every intentional movement, they burst open again. In those times, all I want is to wake up without feeling the weight of life’s struggles sitting like an elephant on my heart.

But can I share something I’ve discovered? It’s all part of the healing process. We need to walk through those battles to strengthen us and develop our faith, but we can’t do it alone. So to help us in these difficult times, I’ve compiled a list of 5 go-to verses for when you wake up feeling the weight of life’s struggles.

I pray these verses will encourage you and bring you one step closer to relief from your battle wounds, just as they have done for me.

1. Lamentations 3:22-23 ESV

“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

2. Psalm 59:16 NLT

“But as for me, I will sing about your power. Each morning I will sing with joy about your unfailing love. For you have been my refuge, a place of safety when I am in distress.”

3. Isaiah 41:10 NLT

“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”


4. Psalm 30:5 NIV

“For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.”

5. Psalm 90:14 NIV

“Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.”

I’ve created a free printable version of these Scriptures for you as well. Click the image below to download this beautiful reminder of God’s promises for our mornings. Print a copy to keep near when you feel powerless under the weight of worry, and you can’t seem to get yourself out of bed. God’s Word is true, and His promises are sure.

Let’s rely on Him today as our wounds continue to heal. We can face our days with renewed peace and joy, because of Him.