Calming the Decision-Making Chaos

We've been talking about control for the past few weeks here at kristinebrown.net. As we wrap up our series, I'd love to share a sneak peek of a resource we have available, the Walking with Rahab: 5-Day Challenge to Better Decision-Making.

 

Learning to let go of control and becoming a better decision-maker go hand-in-hand. Today I'm sharing DAY ONE of this mini study, which looks at the life of Rahab and what we can learn from her story.

(I will only be sharing DAY ONE here on our weekly devotions page. But at the end of today's post, you'll find information on how to access the rest of the 5-day mini study.)

 

DAY ONE: CALMING THE DECISION-MAKING CHAOS

This morning I took a break in the back yard to enjoy a rare cool breeze on an otherwise humid summer day.

Pretty soon, my 13-year-old dog Teddy trotted toward me with a turtle in his mouth. Teddy loves chasing turtles. It was perfectly safe in that hard shell, but Teddy sure seemed proud of his find. He dropped it at my feet, where I rescued it and released it in a nearby lake.

You know, sometimes Teddy lets go of the turtle immediately, while other times he holds on to it, even with coaxing from me. At those times, I have to find a treat to offer him so he'll give up the prized turtle.

 

I can be a lot like Teddy when it comes to decisions.

 

Sometimes I hold onto a decision far too long. I stress and agonize over it, only to end up even more frustrated and no closer to making that decision. Other times, I don't wait on God. My impatience drives me to make a choice too quickly.

Either way, I rarely feel at peace over the decision once it’s made.

When I allow those feelings of worry and uncertainty to end up in frustration, I drift away from God’s will. I put a barrier between me and the Spirit who longs to guide me through those tough choices.

 

“Therefore, brethren, we are debtors—not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.” Romans 8:12-13 NKJV

 

Allowing ourselves to be led by the Spirit gives us peace in knowing He is with us when we face difficult decisions.

Allow me to introduce you to a bold woman in Scripture who made a life-changing decision God's way. As we follow her story over the next 5 days, we will learn 5 truths to remember that will help us be better decision-makers too.

 

“And Joshua the son of Nun sent two men secretly from Shittim as spies, saying, ‘Go, view the land, especially Jericho.’ And they went and came into the house of a prostitute whose name was Rahab and lodged there. And it was told to the king of Jericho, ‘Behold, men of Israel have come here tonight to search out the land.’” Joshua 2:1-2 ESV

 

Rahab is described as a prostitute, or harlot (NKJV). However, many theologians believe at this point in Rahab’s life, she had “repented and reformed.” (Matthew Henry Commentary)

Right after the spies came to Rahab’s home, someone went and told the king about it. Talk about nosy neighbors! I’m certain this didn’t surprise Rahab at all. In fact, whoever shared Rahab’s secret probably thought they were doing the right thing by informing the king. But I want us to notice an important detail here.

Verse 4 says, “But the woman had taken the two men and hidden them.”

Rahab didn’t wait before hiding the men in a safe place. She didn't take time to weigh out her options. She didn’t pause to see what would happen, then hurry around in response to the king’s request. No, the minute they arrived, she planned their escape.

 

She acted immediately.

 

So how did she know what to do? Wasn’t she confused? Frantic? It seems like I try and try to be steadfast in the middle of uncertainty, but I just can’t find that boldness like Rahab.

What was it that drove her ability to make decisions with confidence?

 

"Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous be shaken." Psalm 55:22 NIV

 

When we release control to God and allow His Spirit to guide us through the decision-making process, we allow God's peace to calm the frustration and confusion.

But when I worry and agonize over a decision, I unknowingly take control away from the Holy Spirit and give it back to myself.

By daily releasing control to God, we are allowing His peace to calm the decision-making chaos in our minds.

And just like Rahab, we can learn to walk in immediate obedience.

Sometimes we will sense the Holy Spirit guiding us to make a decision right away, like Rahab did at that moment. Other times there will be waiting involved. As we go through this 5-day study, we will learn more about how to walk through the process of those decisions with steadfast assurance. But for now, lets begin by holding onto this truth:

 

Today’s Truth Declaration is this:

By daily releasing control to God, we allow His peace to calm the decision-making chaos. (Click here to tweet this.)

 

DAY TWO of the mini study ventures into even more of Rahab's story. Would you like to receive the rest of this free 5-day study?

Click here to have the entire Walking with Rahab challenge delivered to you via email.

At the end of the 5 days, you will also receive the free Scripture-based prayer for better decision-making. (Did I mention it's all free?)

 

Have you already read the study? Then I'd love for you to hop over to our Facebook page here and join the conversation. See you there!

 

Blessings,

Kristine

 

3 Helpful Verses for When I’m Struggling to Let Go

I'm learning to let go of control right now as you read this devotion.

 

You see, our son is getting ready to start a new adventure. Packing, driving, getting settled into a new dorm room and meeting a new roommate for the first time.

And for the first time in his life, I won't be there to enjoy these firsts with him.

Because of a pre-planned vacation, my husband and I will not be there to accompany our son on his new adventure. That's fine for our independent boy, but not so great for this mom who likes to be in control. The hurt in my heart is almost indescribable.

 

It’s hard to let go and just let things happen, especially when I question the decisions and choices being made. There are times when I’m tempted to intervene, even when God hasn’t asked me to. During those times I need God’s Word to keep my heart and mind stayed on Him and His plan.

 

Women Throughout History Struggled with Control

 

Rebekah knew the temptation to intervene. When her husband Isaac’s health was failing, he commanded his first born son Esau to go hunt and prepare food for him. Isaac planned to bless Esau after enjoying his favorite meal.

Hearing Isaac’s plan, Rebekah’s desired to see the best possible future for her son Jacob. This caused her to take control. She schemed with Jacob and put together a plan to trick her husband into blessing him instead of his older brother.

I understand how Rebekah felt. We want what’s best for our families. We try to guide them toward making good choices and having fruitful lives. But God’s ways are so much greater than our own. If we can stand firm on His promises and fully trust in Him, we will see the goodness of the Lord in and through our loved ones’ lives.

 

And isn’t that what we want most?

 

Like Rebekah, we will have those moments when we want to step in even though God is saying, “Leave this to me.” Here are 3 verses that will help us trust in God instead of taking control.

 

Verses for When I'm Struggling to Let Go

 

You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3 ESV

 

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 ESV

 

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9 ESV


 

Let’s add these verses to our power arsenal today. One of these may be just the weapon we need to grab the next time we battle with the desire to control. I know I need them ALL today. Maybe you do, too?

Then we’ll claim these promises together. We can do this!

 

What are your favorite promises from God’s Word that help you overcome the need to control? I’d love to hear them as we link arms together and encourage one another. Share your go-to verses in the comments.

 

Blessings,

Kristine

 

For more on biblical women who struggled with control, click here to read this article, 10 Women in the Bible Who Struggled to Trust God's Plan.