When Comparison Compromises My Worth

The following devotion originally appeared as a guest post on Dance With Jesus blog by Susan B. Mead. I am sharing it again here to celebrate the upcoming release of my new book, Over It. Devotional for Teen Girls. I will be sharing more about that in the next few weeks!

My life hasn’t always been about good choices, all laced together and tied into a neat little bow. For a while good decisions seemed to fade into the background, pushed out by a more prominent desire to find myself in a world where that was the cool thing to do.

Good choices weaved into my circumstances from time to time. But they were never quite able to draw me out of my all-about-self attitude. Because that’s the place I was in – all about me.

One day, a friend invited me to church. That’s where I met Jesus.

I learned about how Jesus gave himself as a sacrifice so that I could have the chance to live with Him in heaven one day. And not only that, but also the abundant life God freely gives to those who know Him.

That day, I made the best choice of all. I accepted Him.

You’d think such a stellar decision would set me on a path toward change. But I soon found that change could only come through some hard places. Oh-so-hard places.

I began to look at other women who served our Savior with grace and poise. How beautiful they were! Each of these women certainly deserved their place at the Master’s table. But me? Not so much. Instead of looking to them as mentors and choosing to learn from their example, I resolved to compare.

I measured my first days as a new Christian against their years of serving the Lord.

This struggle with comparison diverted me away from God’s Word. It caused me to question my value. Yet God used it for my ultimate good by sending me on a remarkable journey to discover who He created me to be.

I didn’t realize how many times the voice of comparison had whispered into my life in that sneaky way it has. But as I learned to recognize its ways and stay alert to its dangers, a miracle happened. I began to uncover what God’s Word says about comparison and how I could conquer it once and for all.


“If you are content to simply be yourself, you will become more than yourself” (Luke 14:11 MSG).


This verse became the catalyst for a great new adventure – one that would reveal some deep truths about who God says we are. Every struggle, discovery, and lesson learned culminated into a message I share in the book, Over It. Conquering Comparison to Live Out God’s Plan.

In this book, I reveal my own battle with comparison. I also unearth the story of three women in Scripture who fell into that place. Through their circumstances, they found the keys to overcoming the need to compare. And by doing this, they allowed God to use them in a mighty way.



And He will do the same for us, too.

Winning the battle over comparison has helped me let go of my past and embrace who I am in Christ today. Oh, I haven’t arrived just yet. None of us have. But with these tools from God’s Word, I am well on my way to being able to say, “I’m over it,” and meaning it.

Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to silence the voice of comparison in your own life? Then I’d like to invite you to come along on the adventure.

It may not be all pretty and perfect, but it will definitely be worth it. Let’s make a choice today. Let’s dare not to compare, and find out the truth about who we are. Through Jesus, we will become more than we ever imagined possible.


Blessings,

Kristine


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When Comparison Causes Me to Doubt My Worth

I shouldn’t have come, I thought. I scanned the crowded room, searching for a familiar face. I took an awkward side-step out of the way as a group of giggling girlfriends came toward me. A quick glance at the door told me I might be able to exit without anyone noticing. Before making my getaway, the host intercepted and led me to an empty table.

Enthusiasm filled the air, but to me it felt as distant as the ladies laughing and joking with each other. In the midst of all the hugs, selfies, and squeals of new friendships forming, I couldn’t help but feel something missing. Like they all had something I didn’t - companionship, belonging. And with every pang of longing felt, the voice of comparison grew louder and louder. Before I realized it, my compulsion to compare caused me to question my worth.

A woman in Scripture named Leah knew a thing or two about comparison. From the first moment we meet her, we get a glimpse of her countenance through the look in her eyes.

“There was no sparkle in Leah’s eyes, but Rachel had a beautiful figure and a lovely face,” (Genesis 29:17 NLT).

Leah led a sparkle-free life. Her special qualities concealed inside. She was just an ordinary girl who didn’t see anything super special about herself.

From where she stood, her sister Rachel seemed to have it all - beauty, her father’s affection, her husband Jacob’s love. When the two sisters were together, heads always turned toward Rachel. Leah had grown used to that, so it didn’t surprise her when Jacob favored her younger sister. And focusing on Rachel only magnified her emptiness.

When we compare, we turn our focus away from God. We let negative self-talk determine our worth. By seeing all she was missing, Leah allowed comparison to steal her shine. But God saw something more. He saw her as the woman He created - real, wonderful, magnificent.

“How magnificent are Your works, Lord, how profound your thoughts,” (Psalm 92:5 HCSB).

Leah may have gotten caught up in competition with Rachel, but when she turned her eyes toward God, she discovered her true worth. From Leah’s story, we can learn an important truth.

When we look at ourselves and see mediocre, God looks at us and sees magnificent. (Tweet this.)

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Leah’s story brings hope today. It shows us we’re not alone in the battle with comparison. If we will let Him, God will fill the missing pieces in our hearts in the most beautiful ways, just like he did for me that night. God used a new friend at a simple gathering of women to reach out to this lonely girl. Just as I’d resolved to go hide in the bathroom, a brave young lady joined me at the table. We chatted, we connected, and best of all we found comfort in encouraging one another instead of comparing.

Just like Leah, we too can focus our gaze on God and discover our worth in our Heavenly Father. So let’s silence the voice of comparison today and see ourselves as God sees us. We are valuable. We are loved. We are His magnificent creation.

“How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered!” (Psalm 139:17 NLT).

 

Blessings,

Kristine