When You Can't Decide, Start with This.


Yes, it was settled. I declared my major. Decision made.

That all seemed fine and dandy, until the first day of class when the professor gave us a list of every type of camera ever made and told us we had to memorize them all. (Lots of numbers involved.) Not only that, but we also had to learn every part, what it was called, how to spell it, and its purpose.

Not exactly what I was expecting.

So, I changed my major again. It reminds me of a sitcom episode I saw recently, where the frustrated parents tried and tried to help their indecisive daughter declare a major in college. She went through dozens of unlikely choices before settling on something suited to her personality.

By the end of the episode she’d made a wise decision, but the process was exhausting.

It’s been quite a few years since those college days for me, but these tough decisions pop into our lives often. What is it that makes them so difficult?

Endless options.

Maybe it’s looking for a new career path.

Maybe it’s trying to decide on homeschooling, private school, or public school for your child.

Maybe you’re in the market for a new home, and you’re afraid if you hesitate, the right house will be taken by someone else.

Whatever decision you may be facing, can I offer some encouragement today from someone who understands?

Our world is filled with opportunities. We have more options than we can possibly consider.

Yet God calls us to keep things simple.



Rejoice. Pray. Give thanks. This is God's will for us. (Tweet this.)

I used to love making pro and con lists, until I realized when I listed out the pros and cons, the lines became more and more blurred. That’s when I discovered pro/con lists just didn’t work for me. The more I mull over my options, the more confusion I create in my mind. So when I see myself heading in that direction, I go to these 3 simple steps straight from God’s Word.

Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 NLT

God offers us these steps to help us refocus when the endless options of life overwhelm us.

When we pause to rejoice, pray, and give thanks, God draws near to us. He clears our minds of everything causing confusion and replaces them with His loving peace.

And from that place of peace we can hear Him more clearly and choose with confidence.




How to Let Grace Set Your Pace through the Holidays, Part 2

The most joyful season of the year. It’s here, and with it comes the possibility of rushed schedules, tired bodies, and frustrated hearts.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

With intention, focus, and a little time invested, we can change a hectic holiday season to a time when our spirits are refreshed and renewed. Are you with me?



Last week, we looked at the first two things we must do in order to Let Grace Set Our Pace through the Holidays. If you didn’t get a chance to read it, go there first by clicking the title link.

Today we will explore two more musts to help us have the best Thanksgiving and Christmas.


3. If I need to say no, I'll do so in love. Then I won't fret over hurt feelings.

One year I came down with bronchitis right before Thanksgiving. As a result, we weren’t able to take our yearly trip to Alabama to visit family. I felt awful. Not just about the bronchitis, but about having to miss seeing my mother-in-law on Thanksgiving Day.

I’ll never forget what she said to me though. It’s an ideal she lived by, and taught to us as well.

It doesn’t matter what day we get together, as long as we get to see each other. It’s not about the day, but being together when we can.

We didn’t have to visit on that exact day. We could have Thanksgiving any day of the year! I always remember her words when the demands of visiting everyone over the holidays just gets to be too much.

We may need to make plans in January for a weekend visit, or even February. The most important thing is to let go of the guilt over hurting someone’s feelings.

We can’t do it all, and feeling responsible for everyone else’s feelings won’t help.


4. Reflect on my schedule daily, reminding myself of my priorities.

Now that we’ve done the work of setting things in order, the rest of our schedule can be filled with fun activities that will bring joy to the season.

But before adding anything to the calendar, take a close look at it each day. Read through those things you identified as most important, and don’t be tempted to erase and replace.

Did your Sunday school plan an impromptu gift exchange this Saturday night? Did your son’s teacher lose her volunteers for the class party, and she needs you to spend all day tomorrow at school?

If you already have things on the calendar, prayerfully consider your options before making any changes. Remember your priorities. Will these new activities add extra stress for you and your family?

Taking time to review the schedule will help you make the best possible decisions for the day ahead.


Above all, let’s agree together to remember why we are celebrating. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and the New Year bring an abundance of opportunities to reflect on God's gift to us.

Let’s focus on Him through the holidays, and enjoy growing closer to our Lord this year.