When Comparison Compromises My Worth

The following devotion originally appeared as a guest post on Dance With Jesus blog by Susan B. Mead. I am sharing it again here to celebrate the upcoming release of my new book, Over It. Devotional for Teen Girls. I will be sharing more about that in the next few weeks!

My life hasn’t always been about good choices, all laced together and tied into a neat little bow. For a while good decisions seemed to fade into the background, pushed out by a more prominent desire to find myself in a world where that was the cool thing to do.

Good choices weaved into my circumstances from time to time. But they were never quite able to draw me out of my all-about-self attitude. Because that’s the place I was in – all about me.

One day, a friend invited me to church. That’s where I met Jesus.

I learned about how Jesus gave himself as a sacrifice so that I could have the chance to live with Him in heaven one day. And not only that, but also the abundant life God freely gives to those who know Him.

That day, I made the best choice of all. I accepted Him.

You’d think such a stellar decision would set me on a path toward change. But I soon found that change could only come through some hard places. Oh-so-hard places.

I began to look at other women who served our Savior with grace and poise. How beautiful they were! Each of these women certainly deserved their place at the Master’s table. But me? Not so much. Instead of looking to them as mentors and choosing to learn from their example, I resolved to compare.

I measured my first days as a new Christian against their years of serving the Lord.

This struggle with comparison diverted me away from God’s Word. It caused me to question my value. Yet God used it for my ultimate good by sending me on a remarkable journey to discover who He created me to be.

I didn’t realize how many times the voice of comparison had whispered into my life in that sneaky way it has. But as I learned to recognize its ways and stay alert to its dangers, a miracle happened. I began to uncover what God’s Word says about comparison and how I could conquer it once and for all.

“If you are content to simply be yourself, you will become more than yourself” (Luke 14:11 MSG).

This verse became the catalyst for a great new adventure – one that would reveal some deep truths about who God says we are. Every struggle, discovery, and lesson learned culminated into a message I share in the book, Over It. Conquering Comparison to Live Out God’s Plan.

In this book, I reveal my own battle with comparison. I also unearth the story of three women in Scripture who fell into that place. Through their circumstances, they found the keys to overcoming the need to compare. And by doing this, they allowed God to use them in a mighty way.

And He will do the same for us, too.

Winning the battle over comparison has helped me let go of my past and embrace who I am in Christ today. Oh, I haven’t arrived just yet. None of us have. But with these tools from God’s Word, I am well on my way to being able to say, “I’m over it,” and meaning it.

Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to silence the voice of comparison in your own life? Then I’d like to invite you to come along on the adventure.

It may not be all pretty and perfect, but it will definitely be worth it. Let’s make a choice today. Let’s dare not to compare, and find out the truth about who we are. Through Jesus, we will become more than we ever imagined possible.



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The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with Warriors

“I just don’t like being around people,” I heard her say. “I prefer to be alone.”


It took those words a moment to penetrate the walls of my heart. At first, I was shocked. Why would she admit to not liking people? Then I remembered I’d been in that same place. I realized how much she and I had in common.


I never considered myself a loner. Working as a teacher, serving in ministry, I’ve always been surrounded by people. But when I heard this sentiment shared from a friend, it opened up something in me that I’d buried deep down. A place born from hurt and betrayal. A place I wanted to forget. And shutting people out helped me do just that - forget.


When I walked through my daily routine at work, church, or even running errands, I put on a smile. I acted joyful. And honestly, I felt like a fake, because the feelings I held inside told an entirely different story.


I’d fallen into a pattern of hiding the truth of my heartache, and I’m not sure why. Maybe because I didn’t want to burden others with my real feelings. Maybe I wanted to make sure I was ‘exuding joy’ and not the opposite. Or maybe, I wanted to avoid conversations that would dredge up unwanted memories.


With this young lady’s words, God spoke a powerful truth into my life. One I desperately needed.

We need a community of warriors to help us fight the giants in our lives. (Tweet this.)


Remember the story of David and Goliath? Little David took down that big bad giant with 5 small stones. He became the hero. And he did it alone.


Or so I thought.


You see, the story didn’t end when David marched back to Saul victorious. There were more giants, and giants don’t give up easily.

Giants don't give up easily. Neither should we. (Tweet this.)


“And after this there arose war with the Philistines at Gezer. Then Sibbecai the Hushathite struck down Sippai, who was one of the descendants of the giants, and the Philistines were subdued. And there was again war with the Philistines, and Elhanan the son of Jair struck down Lahmi the brother of Goliath the Gittite, the shaft of whose spear was like a weaver's beam. And there was again war at Gath, where there was a man of great stature, who had six fingers on each hand and six toes on each foot, twenty-four in number, and he also was descended from the giants. And when he taunted Israel, Jonathan the son of Shimea, David's brother, struck him down. These were descended from the giants in Gath, and they fell by the hand of David and by the hand of his servants.” 1 Chronicles 20:4-8 ESV


In the passage above, we get a picture of David’s kingdom several years later, after he became king. War with the Philistines surfaced again, and these giants seemed just as intimidating as Goliath.


Scripture says one of them “taunted Israel.” Sound familiar? It should, because that’s what Goliath did that made David what to shut the giant’s mouth - permanently. And this time, David had help.


David surrounded himself with warriors willing to kill some giants on his behalf. That’s what we need to do, too.


“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NLT


There will be times when we face hurt at the hands of others. Sometimes from those we considered friends, or even family.

There will be times we face situations where we can’t find a way out.

There will also be times when it seems like all hope is lost. When we want to hide away in a room somewhere in solitude.


That’s when we need to seek out the giant killers in our lives. Surround ourselves with warriors willing to go into battle when weariness takes hold.


God created us for community. He never intended for us to face our giants alone. But we need to get past the lie that tells us we shouldn’t let other people past the walls we’ve built.


We need each other.


Are you facing any giants in your life? Have you been tempted to avoid interaction with others and keep it all to yourself? Then let the story of David and his giant killers speak to your heart like it did mine. God has a group of warriors ready to fight for you!


Together let’s agree to seek out those people in our lives who will stand with us when we need help, when we need warriors to come alongside us. And in turn, we can be faithful warriors as well.



For more devotions about community, check out this post, When Comparison Threatened to Steal My Community.