3 Helpful Verses for When I’m Struggling to Let Go

I'm learning to let go of control right now as you read this devotion.


You see, our son is getting ready to start a new adventure. Packing, driving, getting settled into a new dorm room and meeting a new roommate for the first time.

And for the first time in his life, I won't be there to enjoy these firsts with him.

Because of a pre-planned vacation, my husband and I will not be there to accompany our son on his new adventure. That's fine for our independent boy, but not so great for this mom who likes to be in control. The hurt in my heart is almost indescribable.


It’s hard to let go and just let things happen, especially when I question the decisions and choices being made. There are times when I’m tempted to intervene, even when God hasn’t asked me to. During those times I need God’s Word to keep my heart and mind stayed on Him and His plan.


Women Throughout History Struggled with Control


Rebekah knew the temptation to intervene. When her husband Isaac’s health was failing, he commanded his first born son Esau to go hunt and prepare food for him. Isaac planned to bless Esau after enjoying his favorite meal.

Hearing Isaac’s plan, Rebekah’s desired to see the best possible future for her son Jacob. This caused her to take control. She schemed with Jacob and put together a plan to trick her husband into blessing him instead of his older brother.

I understand how Rebekah felt. We want what’s best for our families. We try to guide them toward making good choices and having fruitful lives. But God’s ways are so much greater than our own. If we can stand firm on His promises and fully trust in Him, we will see the goodness of the Lord in and through our loved ones’ lives.


And isn’t that what we want most?


Like Rebekah, we will have those moments when we want to step in even though God is saying, “Leave this to me.” Here are 3 verses that will help us trust in God instead of taking control.


Verses for When I'm Struggling to Let Go


You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3 ESV


And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 ESV


For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9 ESV


Let’s add these verses to our power arsenal today. One of these may be just the weapon we need to grab the next time we battle with the desire to control. I know I need them ALL today. Maybe you do, too?

Then we’ll claim these promises together. We can do this!


What are your favorite promises from God’s Word that help you overcome the need to control? I’d love to hear them as we link arms together and encourage one another. Share your go-to verses in the comments.





For more on biblical women who struggled with control, click here to read this article, 10 Women in the Bible Who Struggled to Trust God's Plan.


Hope for the Woman Who Likes to Be in Control

The stench hit in waves when we walked through the front door. I can’t quite describe it, but trust me. It was bad. The waves grew stronger as we moved closer to the kitchen.


What on earth could cause such a rancid smell?


We searched the house. We deep cleaned. We asked for advice, even though it was totally embarrassing asking about possible sources for a nasty smell in our house, and how to get rid of it.


Through our top-notch detective work, we finally concluded the smell must be coming from a poor critter who somehow got inside our walls. We live near a lake, so it isn’t unusual to see frequent visitors such as mice, squirrels, snakes, and more. Unfortunately, one such visitor must’ve found a way in and gotten trapped.


There are a few problems that arise when this happens. Number one: finding the critter. Number two: figuring out how to get it out. Number three: finding where it got in, so it doesn’t happen again.


With the help of professionals, we checked one and two off our list. Number three proved to be a huge problem that persisted for months and months. No matter how hard we tried, we could not find where they were getting in, which resulted in more stinks, more money, and more frustration.


It became a joke among family and friends. We’d never heard of anyone having such problems with dead critters! Let’s just say family get-togethers for sure weren’t happening at our house. But even though I tried to keep a light-hearted attitude about it, my patience wore thin. I was determined to solve this problem, but it was beyond my grasp.



I felt like I was fighting nature, and nature was winning. Finally I threw my hands in the air and thought, “Forget it. I can’t figure it out. I’ll just live with a stinky house forever!”


I decided to let go of control because I’d become exhausted by my efforts.


Which is exactly what I needed to do all along - let go of control.



Why do we like to be in control?


There are many reasons why we get caught in the control trap. We may feel a deep sense of satisfaction from being needed or valued. Control can also provide temporary relief when we face uncertainty. We feel like if we keep control of our situation, we won’t have to ask ourselves all those what-if questions. What if it doesn’t turn out the way I expected? What if something bad happens?


I know I’m supposed to give my problems to God and trust Him with the answers. I love the message in 1 Peter 5:7, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (NIV) Yet when it comes to my daily life, I still struggle to turn it over to Him. I feel like my way will work best, and I forget the most important truth.


Whatever the reason we like to be in control, we have hope today. Hope for when that cycle of control results in ugly things like frustration, overwhelm, and burnout.


A verse to remember when I'm caught in the control trap.


“Yours, O Lord, is the greatness, the power, the glory, the victory, and the majesty. Everything in the heavens and on earth is yours, O Lord, and this is your kingdom. We adore you as the one who is over all things.” 1 Chronicles 29:11 NLT



When we're tempted to take control, let's remember this. God is over ALL  things. (Tweet this.)


Reading the verse above makes me think of miracle stories in the Bible when God showed Himself powerful and sovereign in the lives of His people. Times like when He parted the Red Sea, when the walls of Jericho came down, and when Sarah became pregnant in her old age.


But God’s greatness, power, glory, victory, and majesty apply to my everyday life too. Not just the big things, but the not-so-exciting moments as well. (Even stinky critter moments.) Remembering that God is over ALL things in our lives helps us cast our cares on Him, knowing He is the one in control.


I stopped worrying about rodents in the walls. Instead, I chose to focus on God’s goodness. I praised Him for our home, which I’d forgotten to do in the midst of the chaos. And you know what? The problem ended. No more stink.


We don’t know how it happened, but we don’t need to know. This is God’s kingdom, and everything in it belongs to Him. When we remind ourselves of His sovereignty in our lives, we begin our journey of letting Him have control.





Thank you for joining me for our new series on CONTROL. To make sure you don't miss a post in this 4-part series, you can subscribe here and receive your free gift, One-Sentence Prayers for Letting Go of Frustration